How many times has the following happened to you?
“You were interacting with a girl and then suddenly you started hesitating about what you were doing and what move to make next. ALL SORTS OF QUESTIONS STARTED POPPING IN YOUR MIND and slowly you lost the flow of the conversation.
Now, you probably aren’t the only one. This happens to guys all around the world.
It’s called freezing and overthinking, or rather, not thinking the right things, as I like to call it.
Okay, I want to keep things simple in this post and force you to think about your interactions and how you can improve them.
BOTTOM LINE NUMBER 1- YOU ARE ALMOST ALWAYS BEING TOO SERIOUS IN ALL YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN.
A lot of people ask themselves questions which instead of improving the conversation, make it more serious, dull and ridiculously nerve wracking.
I’ve seen too many guys out there absolutely over thinking themselves to death.
“Will she like me?”
“Am I wearing the right shirt?”
“When should I touch her?”
“Is she going to respond to my joke?”
“Where do I take her?”
“What do I talk about?”
“How am I looking?”
“Should I have shaved?”
And, of course, the all-important: “What is her impression of me, RIGHT NOW?”
The problem with all these questions is that none of them will lead to attraction or a memorable conversation. You are just another guy to her; Another guy, who asked himself the same questions that everyone else does and failed to create any spark whatsoever.
You have to stop asking yourself even a single one of the questions, I mentioned above.
Don’t worry about the outcome.
Worry about your own attitude and playfulness.
PLAYFUL IS THE WORD HERE.
Here are some questions you SHOULD instead think about, next time you’re interacting with a girl.
“What do I find interesting about this person?”
“What striking similarities can I see?
“How much fun can I have tonight?”
“What sorts of feelings can I make her feel?”
“How different am I from other guys?”
And, of course, the all-important: “Am I relaxed and having a good time?”
I won’t delve too much into the psychological aspects of all these questions and how they affect your interactions. They speak for themselves.
Point is, RELAX, HAVE A GOOD TIME and BE PLAYFUL.
Your goal should not be to get laid but to relax and enjoy yourself. See the difference this makes to all your interactions.
I hope you made a mental note of the questions you need to be asking yourself, next time you meet a girl. If not, write them down on a piece of paper. Stop being lazy.
TODAY IS THE DAY YOU START TAKING CONTROL OF YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN.
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