The answer lies in sexual tension. The best thing about sexual tension is this – YOU CAN LEARN IT AND ELECTRIFY YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH ANY WOMAN YOU MEET. It’s not that hard, really once you know what you’re supposed to do. It just takes some willingness and effort on your part.
Let me ask you, Have you ever encountered a situation where you were aroused by a woman so much, that you just wanted her and nothing would deter you from getting it. This desire forms the basis for sexual tension. Now, I’m not saying go crazy about a girl and stalk her till you get her. This desire is fundamental towards creating that sexual spark and we’ll go through how to properly apply this desire to create sexual tension between you and your partner.
SEXUAL TENSION IS DISCUSSED QUITE A LOT BUT UNDERSTOOD VERY LITTLE.
High sexual tension will often lead to very fast physical escalation in your interaction. In fact, one of my friends John, consistently, beds women inside 5 hours of first meeting them. He says it’s all about the sexual tension and the energy in the conversation.
There are many definitions of sexual tension floating out there. I like to keep it simple, though. For me, sexual tension is the presence of a deliberately created arousal state, without being overly sexual in intent. Sounds simple, does it not?
The main problem is exerting control and subtlety in your game. Most guys get horny as a reaction, not as a choice. This is where some control would do wonders for you. I’ve reached a point where I don’t walk around everywhere simply looking for action. I decide when to get aroused by a woman and take action accordingly.
A woman will only get aroused, if you are already aroused. You can’t expect her to be aroused if you are not. She will only reciprocate what you feel. It’s a technique they call mirroring. You don’t talk “sexual stuff” directly. You focus on her and direct all your energy on her. Make her nervous. Make her feel a sense of intrigue. She will FEEL your aroused state and then entertain thoughts of arousal in her own mind, very gradually, since you are not directly talking about sex.
It’s important to be aroused yourself because when you’re aroused, you’re allowing the girl the opportunity to be aroused as well. Have you ever been in a sulky mood, and a friend came along cheering and in a great mood, compltetly changing your mood in the process? It’s the same principle here.
So, how do you create a controlled arousal state in yourself?
It’s mostly about non verbal communication and body language. When you are turned on, your voice will subtly reflect that, your manner of touching and staring will change, the way you look into here eyes and think about her will change. A major tip here – When trying to create arousal in her through verbal communication, start talking softly and more slowly and INTRODUCE PAUSES in your speech. Try this and see the effect it has on the girl.
Too often, I see guys trying to fake being aroused. They’ll act horny, lick their lips and do a “husky” sounding voice. This has no effect because it is not stemming from real arousal. The girl can make this out because believe it or not, girls are 10x better at reading body language than men.
In order to be in controlled arousal, be relaxed around women. If you can’t achieve this at first, then go out and talk to more women. Slowly, you’ll become a more relaxed person. For the horny part, try going to the gym and eating lots of animal protein. This will raise your average testosterone levels.
Another important point that needs time devoted to is creating that tension. Obviously, you don’t want to talk her to death. You want to create a sense of intrigue and dominance. Don’t verbalize your desire. Then, you give control to her. She knows you want her and can now forget you and focus elsewhere. In other words, SHE HAS SOLVED YOU and no hence will no longer want you.
One way of creating tension is telling stories and using charged vocabulary to tell them. Throw in words like “lick, throbbing, hard, wet, smooth” in your story without them having a sexual connotation. Naturally, incorporate them into your conversation. “I was eating an amazing piece of dessert yesterday night. The weather was incredibly beautiful. It was raining and I was completely wet. The layer of chocolate on the top was so smooth yet at the same time there was this hard nougat inisde. My chest was throbbing from the sheer pleasure of the dessert. So much texture, I’ve never seen before.” So on and so forth. Catch my drift?
For now, practice what I’ve laid out for now. In my next post, I’ll talk about Kino and physically escalating from light touching to hand holding to the bedroom. YOU NEED TO TAKE ACTION. SIMPLY READING THIS STUFF DOES NOT MEAN YOU BECOME GOOD AT CREATING SEXUAL TENSION.
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